Limit the time they spend watching television:
It is inevitable that children will see details of the war in the
television or hear in the radio but no is particularly important that the
time spend in front of the television should be limited. Be sure that they
do their school work, after school activities and play at this time
Donít let children watch television news by
themselves: Parents should be present to answer questions and to allow
children to discuss their concerns.
Give simple explanations about the war: Explain
the war in a simplistic manner so children can understand and lessen their
anxiety e.g. Lives are lost to prevent future deaths.
Donít vent your own opinion.- Children donít
understand controversial issues and they should not be part of the forum
for you political views.
Donít instill hatred.- There are not good people
and bad people. There are children in the war that have nothing to do with
their government or with the war. Hatred just brings more hatred.
Just answer their questions: Donít go beyond
what the child is asking you or what he is ready to hear. Explaining more
than they are ready to handle just brings more anxiety.
Reassure your children that the war is far away:
Television gives the false impression that the war is right on the living
room or in the neighborís house. It is helpful to show them on the map
where the war is taking place and turn it into a useful geography lesson.
Reassure them that you are there for them. Make
sure that they know that you are going to be there for them.- Childrenís
major concern is what is going to happen to their parents. Telling them
that nothing is going to change in their family can be very beneficial for
Doní t lie to them. If a family member is in the
war, tell them that they are working to keep everybody else safe. If you
have religious belief\s, tell them to pray with you for the safe and
prompt return of the love ones
Consult a Child Psychiatrist: If your child
despite all of these measures continues to present symptoms of consult
your local Child Psychiatrist to evaluate your child. Anxiety symptoms are
nightmares, difficulties sleeping, unable to stay alone, crying when the
parents leave or requiring constant reassurance.